Step 2 — Self-concept
Self-concept is all about what you think of yourself. It’s your knowledge and belief of who you are.
We go through life getting to know about other people but we also have to explore ourselves.
Self-concept is formed from our childhood experiences. I previously shared my background and experiences to help you think back and reflect on your childhood and your background. Reflect on how this impacted you and shaped you to become the person that you are today. Forming self-concept begins at an early age, on a basic level. I learned that I was female, had Caribbean origin, it also includes things like eye colour or hair colour and skin colour.
Psychological traits and maturity
As we mature, our concept of ourselves deepens into known internal psychological traits. These are traits like “I’m a good person, I have great skills, I am fussy”. The idea you have about yourself is the key to fulfilling potential. This is the factor that will determine whether you are going to use that potential or not.
If you believe that you have no skills or ability, then you will lose the possibility to utilise your potential. BUT if you think that you are excellent at something, then you will probably seek opportunities where you can expose and use those skills.
Self-concept is something that you have to get right otherwise you may never fulfil the potential that you were born with.
Learn to know you
Self-assessment is important as this gives us the opportunity to learn to know ourselves. Because if your self-concept is lacking this can lead to symptoms like anxiety and self-destruction. You may not even realise that all of this is within you. To fulfil your potential, YOU need to know who you are.
In this step, I encourage you to create a list of strengths and weaknesses, of your likes and dislikes. I want you to think really about what it is that you like about yourself. What do you dislike about yourself? What strengths do you possess and what are the weaknesses you feel you have? While you are thinking about your lists, I encourage you to seek feedback from those around you. This will help you see whether your self-concept is good, as people do reflect who we are.
I am not perfect
People sometimes view self-acceptance as encouraging laziness. As mentioned in my previous blog, if you accept yourself as you are then you are not inclined to be lazy. Accepting yourself as you are empowers you to say “You know, let me see all of me, let me find out what I like and dislike about myself when things are good and bad” and it will empower you to make changes that support your progress.
This is a critical step and it requires you to have self-compassion and to say “You know what, I am not perfect and that is okay”.
If you haven’t created your personal declaration, get to it. I shared mine with you in last week’s blog. Years ago, I didn’t accept myself and because of that, I didn’t really know myself. I believed I wasn’t a very good or nice person and I felt worthless, which links to next week’s blog. It was only after self-acceptance and creating that list of strengths and weaknesses, likes and dislikes that I began to see the real me. Once I had gotten past the fear of who I might or might not be I was brave enough to take a good look in the mirror of my soul. So get cracking.
Show up and be seen
Once you’ve got clarity on you, the type of person you are, your strengths and weaknesses etc, you’re primed to show up and allow yourself to be seen. You can decide on the weaknesses that you want to work on improving and what ones you’re okay with. You can then allow your strengths to grow even stronger. You’ll be absolutely fine with people seeing who you really are. You’ll know where to channel your energy to fulfil your potential. Let’s just hope you know you’re worth it.
We’ll look at worth next week.
Until then, take care
Jasmine Mbye – The Shine Out Trainer.
Specialising in women’s empowerment. Empowering ambitious women to excel.
A challenging childhood left Jasmine ineffective and blocking her own success. Embarking on and successfully completing a journey to become her best, resulted in Jasmine creating the Shine Out Method.
Accelerating your journey to true success with the real confidence and right balance you desire so you go from blending and stressing to standing out and shining.
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